The Gemini and I have a lot of friends who are trying to lose weight right now. Whether they’re blogging about it, carefully tracking their food with Weight Watchers, or just hiding how little they eat in a given day, we know weight maintenance is on their minds. This is unsurprising. After all, don’t we live in a society where Kim Kardashian claims to pose for Playboy in a sweet but misguided attempt to prove to women that your butt can be big, naked, and profitable? (ILU, BABY GIRL!)
Now, currently, there’s a trend in the internet to advocate against fat-phobia by having fat-positive blogs and fat-positive fashion websites. As someone who used to be really overweight, especially in my teens and college years, you’d think I’d be on board with this. But I’m just not.
We live in a society where food is improperly handled, where agribusiness runs rampant, where (evil) corporations like Monsanto sneak in genetically modified organisms into our every bite (even striking a deal with Whole Foods), and where being able to buy healthy food is a symbol for the most part of being able to afford to. We lead sedentary lifestyles, in 9-5 jobs, which are often car-dependent unless we live in urban areas with proper public transportation and safe places to walk.
Yes, it’s awful the pressures women have on them to be perfect and small.
And no, blogging that you’re okay with how fat you are isn’t going to reverse the systems that created this. It may create a sense of solidarity for women (and men) who’ve been alienated by beauty myths, but it won’t create a necessary paradigm shift. How does saying “look how attractive I can be” prove anything other than women should be valued by how well they dress and how attractive they are?
The Libra’s Advice to you:
1.) Dress beautifully, no matter what size you are.
2.) Walk everywhere that you possibly can.
3.) Take public transportation (walking those two blocks to the metro adds up).
4.) Do what Michael Pollan says: “Eat food, not too much, mostly plants.”
5.) Never forget there’s better things than public acceptance of how you look, like public acceptance of who you are. (I’d rather the world start accepting women can be strong, smart and loud than that they can be pretty and fat.)
6.) Never lose sight of problems that are more extensive than your own personal weight loss goals; remember, this isn’t about you. This is about our culture.
7.) If you can, spend the extra money on healthy foods, local and organic. Hint: you might be able to afford it if you budget and prioritize.
And now! Some beautiful women of all sizes:
Pat Ast, the original “fatshionista” in Halston:
Audrey Hepburn, in Sabrina:
Tall and athletic Adrianne Palicki:
Corin Tucker, one of my favorite musicians:
Nigella Lawson, chef and saucy Brit:
And one of my all time favorites, at any age, Anjelica Huston:
May 2011 bring you health and beauty,